How to Live a Life of Peace with Food: Online Course

How to Live a Life of Peace with Food

Are you fed up with fighting food and your body?

Imagine this...

You feel at ease in your own skin.

You trust yourself to eat in a way that’s easy and natural.

The good news? It is possible...

I know how it feels.

I know the pain of hating your body.

I know that feeling of desperation.

That deep-seated longing to get off the roller coaster of dieting, bingeing and feeling ashamed...

Only for it to start all over again with yet another diet...

From the age of 8 until about 43, I was somewhere on the diet roller coaster almost all the time.

I would chug along the incline, feeling the thrill and excitement of a new diet and the anticipation of what I thought it would bring me: approval from others, acceptance of myself, feeling in control again around food (a blessed relief from bingeing), feeling worthy and feeling confident in my clothes.

Then, as I got closer to the top of the incline, the tension would increase until something SNAPPED. Because the dieting, restricting and controlling could only be sustained for so long.

And right at the very top, was that feeling of sheer panic as I was poised to hurtle down.

It felt like free-fall.

Inexpressibly scary and out of control.

Even though I knew I had my seatbelt on...

And then the bingeing would start, along with deep despair, self-blame and shame.

Sometimes I’d head straight back up the incline with new avowals to be good...

To really stick to it this time. To never ever eat chocolate again (because you know, I was addicted to sugar - or so I thought).

And then I'd come hurtling back down again.

Other times, I reached a flat part — either at the top of the incline, or after the end of the decline. This was where things felt relatively calm. If I was coasting along after the incline, I was somehow managing to maintain the restrictive behaviours.

But the thrill and excitement had gone. Mostly I felt scared and alone.

When I coasted along the flat at the end of the decline, I was checked out of myself. I ate without attunement to my body. I did a lot of mindless grazing. Often eating in secret.

Eventually though, I’d be fed up with this.

I'd be mortified that I'd gone up a size or two.

I'd feel TERRIBLE about myself... And I'd start planning the next diet.

On and on this went. Year in and year out. Decade after decade...

The irony was that I thought that the hurtling out of control part was my own fault: my 'lack' of willpower, my weaknesses and my failure as a human being.

I had no idea AT ALL that it was actually because I’d got on the roller coaster in the first place🙂!

My life was pretty much completely taken up with trying to fix what I perceived to be the problem: my unruly, disobedient body and my undisciplined, weak-willed mind.

It took up a lot of focus and energy!

And my life suffered.

Being on that roller coaster cost me so much:

My social life, my sex life, fun family time, my integrity, my mental health.

It cost me SO much money.

Most of all, it cost me A LOT of my happiness...

After decades of angst, I finally cracked the code of what was driving the war with my body and food.

Nowadays, I only think about food when I need to deal with it in some way...

In fact, I can’t recall the last time I stressed about food!

I can’t remember the last time I worried about my body (granted, I hold many privileges).

Solving this puzzle made me more honest with myself (and as a person).

I’m kinder. I’m more compassionate. I'm less judgemental.

I created this course to help you crack the code too...

And in it, I'll teach you how to let go of all the rules and relax around food.

I'll show you how to trust YOUR own body and reclaim your innate worthiness... So you can live life unapologetically and focus on what's really important to you.

“I cannot say how much this course has positively impacted upon my relationship with myself and food... Having completed the course I feel so free, happy, able to listen to my body and my needs.”

– A previous participant of How to Live a Life of Peace with Food

Over 12 weeks, this online course will help you:

  • Realise you’re not alone in this struggle
  • Understand what’s driving your behaviour
  • Learn that food is not an enemy to overcome, but rather a friend that nourishes you through life
  • Let go of all the food rules and make eating enjoyable again
  • Uncouple your worthiness from your appearance
  • Make friends with your body (your partner in life)
  • Learn to trust your body’s innate wisdom to guide you
  • Gain skills to navigate your emotional life so you don’t always need to use food to cope
  • Let go of control and start meeting your needs in a more satisfying way
  • Cultivate self-compassion, self-acceptance and self-care
  • Discover ways of moving your body that you LOVE
  • Reconnect with what matters most to you in your one precious life

How the course works

It all begins on Thursday 20th February 2020.

An email with the week's lesson

On Thursdays, I will send you a link to the weekly lesson.

Each lesson is provided as text and as a downloadable audio file.

The lessons also include worksheets, exercises and meditations.

A support call to empower you

Every week on Wednesdays (starting 26th February 2020) at 14:00 GMT there is a live coaching call via Zoom for 60-90 minutes depending on group size*.

We will have a break in the Easter week (no call on the 15th April) and the last call is on the 20th May.

Go here to see this time in your timezone.

The coaching call is for you to get the support you need from me. This is where you get my direct and personal support to untangle the obstacles in the way of taking your next actions towards peace with food and your body.

You don’t have to be on the call the entire time. You can join, get what you need and go, or stay to listen, be with others and learn from them.

*When a group reaches 15 members it will be closed and a new group opened, with a call at a different time.

An online community for sharing

The course features an easy-to-use, email-based community (via groups.io). Over the 12 weeks, you'll get to share with others, give and receive support... And of course, I will be there too.

Price: £299

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“The weekly calls had a huge effect on me as somewhere to come and talk about my life with people that understood and with your gentle containment and guidance. To hear your and everyone's perspective was truly life changing and took me by surprise how much of a difference being on the calls made to my journey.”

– A previous participant of How to Live a Life of Peace with Food

This is for you if:

  • You’re ready to put weight loss on the back burner and focus on repairing your relationship with your body and food
  • You’re sick and tired of dieting and fighting with food and your body
  • You long for balance: you’re tired of living in the extremes with food
  • You just want to eat like a ‘normal’ person (whatever that is 🙂)
  • You’re willing to have an open mind about all the beliefs you have about weight and health
  • You want to accept your body and move on with things that deeply matter to you in your life

This is NOT for you if:

  • You said no to anything in the previous section
  • You have an unresolved trauma history (sexual, physical, emotional abuse at the hands of another person)
  • You have chronic health issues
  • You have an active restrictive and/or purging eating disorder

If you want to do the course and you fall into this second category, contact me, let’s discuss whether it’s a fit for you.

“Looking back, I think I would have paid more because it has been of so much value...”

– A previous participant of How to Live a Life of Peace with Food

Who am I and why should you trust me?

If you don’t know anything about me yet, my name is Vania Phitidis, creator of Peaceful Eating. I’ve been coaching and mentoring people to become more of their authentic selves for over 25 years. More specifically, I’ve been helping people create food freedom and body liberation since 2012.

I have fully recovered from bulimia, binge eating disorder and decades of chronic dieting.

I have a B.A. in Psychology and an Msc. in Education for Sustainability with a focus on behaviour change. I'm a registered Intuitive Eating Counsellor, certified MB-EAT (Mindfulness-Based Eating Awareness Training) teacher and a qualified Self Esteem mentor with the More to Life Programme. I'm a member of ASDAH (Association for Size Diversity And Health), a professional member of The Center for Mindful Eating (TCME) and have a Health At Every Size (HAES), weight inclusive and weight-neutral approach to my work.

“Vania is an undiscovered gem, with a magical combination of knowledge, intelligence, empathy and humour… The advice she has to give, and her way of joining the dots of what is going on for you, feels like being given the keys to the kingdom.”

– A previous private coaching client —

12 weeks of learning How to Live a Life of Peace with Food...

Week 1: Why are you here?

We imagine your life of food freedom - what it looks like, feels like and even tastes like! Think about anything you’ve wanted to create in your life - from getting a degree to baking a cake - you’ve had a picture of it. It gives you a sense of what’s needed. We also go deep into why you want this for yourself - because knowing this provides the fuel that keeps you going when the going gets tough.

Week 2: Mindfulness

People often think that mindfulness is about relaxation. It isn’t (though that can be a lovely side-benefit). It’s about developing your awareness and attention. This week you learn why mindfulness is such a brilliant framework for this work, what you stand to gain from it and how to create a sustainable mindfulness practice. Then - we practice 😎.

Week 3: Letting go of weight loss as a goal

We explore your history of dieting and fear of letting go of pursuing weight loss. We take a look at some of the research so we can understand the reality of it. We explore how pursuing weight loss (or artificially maintaining it) gets in the way of you making peace with food and your body. Finally, we explore the benefits of letting go of this altogether.

Week 4: Befriending your body

We uncover why and how we internalise beauty messages from the culture, the ways in which we comply with them and the effect this may be having on us. We do some deep work exploring your relationship with your body; how you’re treating it now, how that impacts your relationship with it and what needs to change to make it a kinder, more compassionate one.

Week 5: Hunger, fullness and satisfaction

The keys to eating with attunement are this trio! We explore what these feel like and how to become more sensitive to these cues. We examine what gets in the way of our attunement (attunement disruptors) and we dig into your resistance towards feeling or not feeling hunger, fullness and satisfaction.

Week 6: Unconditional permission to eat

This is an extremely important piece to calming our bodies and minds right the way down! This is where liberation from diet culture truly begins! In this lesson you learn why it’s so key to peace with food; we unravel your resistance to it and then you take your first (maybe baby) steps into actually doing it in a way that feels safe for you 😘.

Week 7: Build emotional resilience

Imagine what life might be like when no feeling scares you; where you know that you have the capacity to tolerate any emotion. In this lesson, we explore why this matters and why so many of us struggle. Most importantly, you learn the skills to allow your feelings so you have other ways to manage your emotional life without resorting to using food by default.

Week 8: Urges and cravings

This lesson is all about what happens in the brain when you have an urge; you learn another way to think about urges and most importantly, you learn how to not react to them, so that you’re not living at the effect of urges, but instead, you’re choosing what, when and how much to eat on your own terms.

Week 9: Your programming

As much as we think we’re logical and rational, much of our behaviour is driven by our conditioning. In this lesson, you get to understand how and why this happens and what we can do about it. You also learn how to listen to your inner nurturer more of the time instead of that stuck record, your inner critic.

Week 10: Your needs

For many people who struggle with food, it’s become the trusty friend that can meet all your needs. You may have been doing this for so long, you don’t know any more what it is you really need (when you’re not hungry), how to understand that, or what to do instead. This lesson will help you begin this process.

Week 11: Moving your body

We all know that movement is an important aspect of well-being - for most people. But it’s become so tied up with diet culture that the joy has been sapped right out of it. We unravel this complexity and explore what it is you want for yourself, so you can take those first, or next steps into joyful movement.

Week 12: Self-care

Many say this isn’t a problem with food so much as it’s a problem with self-care. All of these lessons are about self-care! In this lesson, we look at what self-care is and isn’t, how we know whether something is self-caring, what gets in the way of consistent self-care and what we can do to make self-care a more sustainable practice.

“Thank you so much for this wonderful 12 week course Vania it has changed my relationship to food and to my life!”

– A previous participant of How to Live a Life of Peace with Food

If you’ve read all the books and blogs, listened to all the podcasts and nothing has changed, read this…

Remember when you were small?

Before you were able to ride a bike (and you really wanted to ride a bike)... You had all the information about how to ride a bike. You saw others doing it. You knew you needed to sit on the saddle. You knew you needed to place your hands on the handlebars and your feet on the pedals. And finally, you knew you needed to pedal.

But none of that knowledge meant you were able to ride a bike. The only way you could ride a bike, was by getting on the bike and going for it. Sure, you didn’t get it first time. You had to learn to engage your vestibular system. You had to learn how to balance.

But with a bit of practice and a bit of coaching from someone who already knew how to ride a bike, you got it... I know how to ride this bike and I can show you how to do it too!

Price: £299

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Approx. $388 USD | €358 EUR

Frequently Asked Questions

Here are some few questions that have come up since I launched the course...

I’m not sure if this is suitable for me:

If you have a trauma background or an active eating disorder and you want to do the course, please email me - we can have a chat about it. My first priority is to make sure you get the support you need, and other participants’ needs are also met. If you have any other worries about your suitability, please ask.

Can I join the course using a tablet or mobile only?

You will be able to join the calls on any device by downloading the Zoom app. You'll receive instructions on how to do this (it's not complicated). All materials are delivered as PDFs and audio files you can download - and you can do this on a tablet or on your mobile phone if you aren't able to use a computer.

I'm anxious about speaking on a call with other people:

This is one reason why I'm keeping the call groups to a maximum of 15. I don't anticipate everyone to come to every call. Even if everyone does come to every call, they may not all be there all the time. The way the calls will work is that you can show up any time during the hour from when the call starts each week. People will be coached in the order in which they arrived. People will have the option to leave the call any time – some people have kids to collect, or need to get back to work etc.

You can also show up to the coaching call and prefer not to be coached. You have the option to only listen to others. You might find after a week or two that you feel more comfortable to speak, especially as you realise you’re not alone in this.

I don't want to be seen on the calls!

That's fine! Zoom has a function to turn off video. No pressure 😉

Can I pay in instalments?

No, not this time around. You can use your credit card and pay that back in instalments.

What if I'm at work during the coaching calls?

As long as you're able to be in a private space, that's fine. If your lunch time can be flexible, that could work. There is a way to dial into the Zoom call if you're out of wifi range so you don't have to use your data. The coaching calls will also be recorded so you can listen later, even if you're not able to join the call.

Questions or queries?

If you still have questions, please send me an email - I would love to hear from you!

“I would highly recommend the course, the content, worksheets, the support from the group coaching calls from both Vania and other group members. If you want to live a life of peace with food this is a great investment in yourself.”

– A previous participant of How to Live a Life of Peace with Food

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Price: £299

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