Self-care is a theme that comes up repeatedly with my clients. It’s something I’ve needed to grapple with myself.
At the root of it, feeding ourselves appropriately is an act of self-care. It’s not an exaggeration to say it’s a primary act of self-care. From infancy, being fed, being warm, being comfortable and feeling secure all happen simultaneously so it’s no surprise that feeding ourselves can become a proxy for other self-care needs in adulthood.
Through diet culture, our ability to feed ourselves appropriately has been disrupted. Indeed, diet culture disrupts our ability to care for ourselves overall. We’ve been taught that weight loss and its maintenance is a primary act of self-care and if we’re not doing that, then we’re clearly not caring for ourselves. We’re taught to over-exercise and to over-ride our bodies’ signals. We’re taught to deny and deprive ourselves of pleasure, satisfaction and deep rest.
The pursuit of weight loss or its maintenance can become a full time job. It’s so consuming that one can lose touch with other aspects of oneself. I see this sometimes with my clients: they don’t know who they are or what they like or enjoy when the full time occupation of controlling their body falls away.
Another theme I see with many of my clients is that they tend to put their needs last. This happens whether they are single or partnered; with or without children. If single and without children, it’s work. Or ‘the house’, or extended family needs, or friends’ needs, or it’s simply (not so simple actually) due to conditioned beliefs that they don’t deserve to take care of themselves; that their needs don’t matter and that they don’t deserve their own time and attention.
The women I work with often report that they don’t have time or energy for themselves.
And the sad thing?
When we have deconstructed what’s going on and they see what’s happening and they get to a point of being willing to give themselves permission to give themselves their own time and attention – they don’t know what to do. They don’t know what they like or enjoy. They don’t know what brings them pleasure or satisfaction.
I always recommend being open to new possibilities and trying some things out.
If you recognise yourself in any of this – you might want to try Life Book 2020.
What is Life Book 2020?
Life Book is a year-long online creativity and well-being course. This year the theme is ‘an honouring and celebration of you’. If you’re someone who constantly puts yourself and your needs last, perhaps this will be the beginning of a beautiful exploration of what brings you joy, pleasure and satisfaction!
The course is hosted by Tamara LaPorte – an all-round awesome human being. Apart from being a wonderfully talented artist and teacher, Tam is an empathetic visionary for a kinder, more compassionate world. This carries through in everything she offers the world.
I’m so honoured to have been asked to be one of the well-being teachers this year. I’m really excited to share what I know about living in a more grounded and embodied way. But more than that – I’m excited about the journey that Tam and the other teachers will take us on over the year.
You do the course at your own pace. You don’t ever get left behind! There’s nothing to keep up with. You’ll be offered a range of interesting activities and ideas to explore. You get to choose what lights your fire :). Tam also runs a wonderful Facebook Group for the course – a place to share your work, get support, explore, ask questions, receive encouragement, love – and so much more.
You’re probably thinking this will be a really expensive course! Actually, surprisingly (for all that’s included), no! It’s £109 for a whole year of lessons (more than 65!), delivered by 30 teachers. There are also countless jaw-dropping bonuses! And… a payment plan to make it even easier.
Will you join us? Will you say yes to yourself, yes to a creative opportunity for self-exploration and yes to self-care?
(Of course, if you say no, that doesn’t mean you’re saying no to yourself, self-exploration or self-care! Just had to make that clear!)
Find out full details of what’s included in Life Book 2020 here.